Family | Posted by Jannie on 13 December 2008 @ 10:10 AM
Let’s say a couple has a 7-year-old daughter who has twin half-sisters who just turned 26 but the little girl doesn’t know about the twins and vice-versa.
And let’s say the twins were kept from their biological father since birth, yet their mother regularly sent cards, letters and picture updates of them from Bermuda, pictures that leave no doubt as to who their (very cute) bio dad and (very cute) little half sister must be. And letters which basically say “I’m sorry. They are your daughters, but this is for the best.” (All letters and pictures, including a jpeg of the twins as recently as a few months ago, saved and intact.)
Forgetting all the billions of gallons of water under now the bridge, if you were the father of the seven-year-old daughter, what would you do?
[Guys, this edit comes after my answer to Karyn's quest, but before I knew the comments from the Weyrd1 and Lance had come in. You will see so much more of the details in my comment to Karyn's. Thanks. And although I think you've probably picked up on it, the bio dad is only full of love for this whole situation and his wife feels the same. Neither of them would ever wish the Mom any harm, only good really, and it can't have been an easy road for her to keep this secret from her children for so long.]
On 13 December 2008 at 11:37 am Mike Goad said,
Do what my dad did with my half-siblings who didn’t know me.
Tell her about her sisters. Tell her the truth about why things are the way they are. Tell her about the truth about how you feel about the twins and not being able to see them.
I learned the truth of how much my dad cared for me from my half-siblings after 33 years of not being willing to listen. We’re still not close, but I now know he cares.
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On 13 December 2008 at 12:04 pm CSquaredplus3 said,
Wow! “A Biggie” is an understatement. I’m not sure what I’d do, but my inclination is to begin the process of revealing the story – to all involved. Maybe a professional could give you age appropriate words for the pretty little one. The older girls are adults but professional advice on how to proceed would be a good thing in my humble opinion. Wow. Keep us posted if your comfortable… Best wishes.
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On 13 December 2008 at 4:03 pm karyn said,
First why is the mom still sending info to the bio dad?
On 13 December 2008 at 5:10 pm TheWeyrd1 said,
Well, since the half sisters are adults, do they want contact with their dad? Depending on the answer, that could guide the discussion…
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On 13 December 2008 at 5:12 pm Lance said,
Not knowing the whole story is difficult, yet I still think that everyone involved should know. As difficult as that may be, down the road, months, years, whatever – I think everyone will be so glad to know the truth. CSquaredPlus is probably right – professional help with this is a smart idea. I wish you well…in tough decisions that lie ahead…
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On 13 December 2008 at 5:42 pm Jannie said,
Mike: Thank you, more than you know. The truth always frees. [I think it will not be that hard to tell the half-sister, when it gets to that point.]
CSquared+3: Thank you, more than you know. [It may well be time to consult outside people, as was originally initiated about 9 years ago.]
Karyn: There had been no contact between the mom and the bio dad since the mom’s last kiss-off to the bio-dad’s request for disclosure (and initiation of DNA suit,) when the twins were in their late teens.
The bio dad was contacted by a mutual friend this past spring and given the mom’s e-mail address. The bio dad e-mailed her to see if it was indeed she and she emailed back and said “What in the world are you bugging me again for?” The bio dad emailed back and said “There is a new little girl on the scene who will someday learn from her parents about her half-sisters and would it not be best for the twins to learn it from their mother first”? To which the mom mailed back (with the jpeg of the lovely twins,) and said “Oh yeah, well, I heard your daughter is adopted, (which she most definitely is NOT,)([not that I have anything against adoption, of course,] to which the bio dad mailed a few jpegs of the young child. And the mother never mailed back. Hmmn, I guess the resemblance in the photos was a bit too much for her?
More backstory: When the twins were 12, the mom divorced the man listed on the Bermuda birth certificate as the twins’ dad. She moved back to Canada with the girls, and the bio dad was contacted and told they would finally be told the truth, but he ended up being introduced to the twins as “a friend” by the mom. And time passed. The bio dad has never felt it was his place to tell the twins himself, especially in those delicate early teen years. (And had tried earlier in their lives too.) More tiem passed. When the DNA suit was initiated by the dad when the girls were late teens it was then the bio dad got letters from apparently the twins telling him never to contact them again, he couldn’t be their dad, they already dad one. So… just what the twins have been told is a mystery to the bio dad.
Another piece of rather pertinent background, just so you get the complete picture, the mom (who had been a long-ago girlfriend of the bio-dad,) tricked the bio dad into getting her pregnant in the first place by claiming to be single and on birth control, when he went visit her in Bermuda, but it was later divluged by the mom that neither was the case. In fact there was a rich guy in Bermuda (the dad on the birth certificate,) very much in the picture, but who was not able to have children. (Sorry, guys, I don’t mean to be mean, but these are the facts as I know them.)
So the mom lives in Bermuda, the bio dad in the States and the bio dad is not exactly sure where the twins live now, but it probably wouldn’t be too hard to find out.
So why is this coming up now? Well, in the small, extremely beautiful town in Canada (where both the mom and the bio dad are originally from,) where a lot of people know the story of who the twins bio dad actually is and where the bio dad is now currently visiting on business, certain friends are advising him “People need to know who they are. The twins need to know who they are. And they are grown up now, not little kids being shielded by their mom anymore.”
So that’s pretty-much it. Not at all complicated, eh??
On 13 December 2008 at 6:02 pm Shay said,
!!!!!!
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On 13 December 2008 at 6:03 pm Georgie B said,
I’m confused, I think.
Then again……no wait.
I think I understand this entire post.
So my question to you would be this (and if you choose not to answer, believe me, I will more than understand): What is the next move going to be?
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On 13 December 2008 at 6:31 pm Jannie said,
Guys, thanks for your recent comments. I am heading out now with Kelly to a party but will look very forward to talking to you when I get back.
Jannie
xo
On 13 December 2008 at 7:45 pm Lisa said,
Wow, Jannie, this situation hits very close to my heart… I think I may email you later, because I have a very long story to tell and perhaps it would give you some insight into making decisions. Will hopefully talk to you later…
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On 13 December 2008 at 9:53 pm Jannie said,
Weyrd1: (Still get a kick out of your moniker every time I see it,) Wonderful question! What they have been told is a mystery to us still, and were the letters from nine years ago even really written by them? Maybe they were told the bio dad was some kind of delusional nut. Who knows at this point?
Shay: Exactly. !!!!!!
Georgie B: Indeed. It’s convoluted. If all parties lived in the same town it wouldn’t be so difficult. But there’s got to be a way. I’ll see what “the bio dad” says when he gets back. And again, I like Christina’s (CircleSquared+3)idea of consulting wth a professional on how and when to proceed.
Lisa: Thanks, I’ve e-mailed you.
On 13 December 2008 at 10:21 pm Talon said,
All cats seem to escape from “the bag” eventually. They can climb out, be tossed out, rip their way out…but eventually they get out.
Honesty, in all its complicated, gut-twisting, glory is always best.
Definitely some professional counselling can ease a delicate situation.
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On 13 December 2008 at 11:22 pm karyn said,
That is a sticky situation. The girls should be told, but how I’m not sure even just for medical reasons. The dad that raised them, since he probaly loves “his” girls shouldn’t be hurt even though divorced. Out of love for his bio twins, the bio dad shouldn’t force them unless they are willing. The half sister has the right to know she has sisters and to love and be loved by them.
I’m curious to know the outcome. I hope it’s a happy one for the girls.
On 14 December 2008 at 2:35 am Carla said,
Wow! This is a tough one. If the father doesn’t have contact with the twins, and they don’t want contact or to know the truth, even though they should know, it won’t be easy. The half-sister though, should be told. It’s easier to hear the truth from the start especially if told to you by someone who loves you.
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On 14 December 2008 at 4:52 am robbi said,
For what my one cents is worth and the OZ cents aren’t worth one red one right now. If I lived in a maelstrom whirlpool with a really different person/ parent then perhaps I might be a little different myself and ‘normal’ might be weird to me.The half sister sounds like a really nice little girl with great parents, does she really need to know about how different some folks are at her age, keep her innocence just where it is.Any person who tricks another like that has got to be from way out in left field and 26 years is a looooooooonng time down the path. Leave it where it is, bugger them in Canada, what do they know anyway, they have a crazy government .
On 14 December 2008 at 7:10 am Shay said,
Hey now, Robbi, leave my Canadians alone. It’s cold there in Ottawa and the Sens never win it all, it’s a hard life up there!
Go Red Wings!!!
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On 14 December 2008 at 9:15 am Jannie said,
Talon: Yes them cats. Them darn cats longing to be free. Of course some of them cats meet sad fates. But what’s so wrong with the truth? Sometimes people don’t like the truth. I personally, am so past the point of not telling the truth, no matter how small, and have been for a long time and I can’t imagine living any other way. My God, what a terrible way to live – with lies. Those 10 Commandments were for our own good, I see as I’ve grown and matured.
Karyn: The dad who raised them knows about the dio dad, and has for a long time. Bio dad would never “force’ the twins, and has never. Since it is not sure what “truth” has been told to them, he feels they ought to hear the truth and then decide for themselves if they would like to form a relationship. The half-sister, although mature for her age may perhaps still be a year or two young to be told of her half-sisters. (We’ve only just had a talk about how babies are really created – a talk I did not plan on having for another year or two – but my goodness, that inquiring mind just wanted to know!)
Carla: Yes, a quandary for sure. At least if they are told and know the bio dad would be open to a relationship, the bio dad would leave it up to them if they want to pursue a relationship or not. And if the little sister is told and is pining and pining to know her sisters but faces rejection, that’s not a good thing either. Personally, I’m a strong believer in hoping and expecting the best.
Robbi: Ahhh, the whole other argument of the story. Let what’s done lie and not be disturbed. Who needs to know anyway, right? Although the mom does live in Bermuda most of the time, she maintains a rental home in the same Eastern Canadian small town where the bio dad also maintins a home, both currently rented. It’s not exactly a case of them never running into each other again, actually more likely there will be contact when the bio dad moves back there. And the twins genes have really come out on the bio dad’s side, quite the lovely young characters were they when last they were in my company, I believe they were 14 then.
Governments: Are there any that are not messed up
Guys: I thank you all so much for your input. This is not an easy situation, obviously. Had the little sister not come along perpaphs the matter would never have been brought up again. You think that little girl is not going to find those cards, letters and pictures of her older half-sisters one day?! Even if they are locked up in a safe? Kids generally eventually know every single thing that’s in Mom and Dad’s house.
On 14 December 2008 at 1:45 pm sheila said,
I say a big reunion is lonnnng overdue! Hope it all works out! I’d tell the little sis quick before she opens a box one day and finds out for herself (like my kids did when I tried to hide the fact that my ‘dad’ was not my bio dad.)
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On 14 December 2008 at 2:51 pm Jannie said,
Shelia: And do you all have a good realtionship after the truth came out? Any more to share on that? Of course I’m looking for any stories with happy endings I can to bolster my hope level.
On 14 December 2008 at 4:43 pm Stephanie said,
Indeed this is a tough one and a resolution will not come without additional bumps in the road. My opinion, the twins should be told and be allowed to make their own choices about a relationship. The younger one, she should also be told when the time is right. My hubby supposedly has a half sibling that he has never met. Unfortunately, his dad passed away before revealing the identity, so the mystery continues.
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On 14 December 2008 at 5:21 pm robbi said,
Okay Funster,but finding out at this early age is(could) just going to confuse things a tad.I always told my mother I must have been adopted because everyone else had’normal’ folk to call theirs, that is until I realised that mine were a cut above and the grass is not always a better shade of green elsewhere.We all have a different world view and that changes as we grow both in age and ability to comprehend situations but what a child sees is vastly different from an adult and I firmly believe that we should allow children to at least to hope there is a Santa up until they can, at 18, go fight in our wars. Let children BE children and hold their parents(and Santa) in the soft glow for as long as they can. That is only my opinion and formulated by having to be by myself at 14 and then go in the navy at 19, and possibly why I have now reverted back to a childlike state of awe at how the world is now I am in my mid 60’s. Reason enough to think that some Governments are odd, but I can throw no stones Shay.
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On 14 December 2008 at 6:30 pm buddhaofhollywod said,
Truth is the best policy.
It might hurt in the beginning but in the long run you will be glad you chose the truth.
At least that is my personal experience.
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On 14 December 2008 at 7:46 pm Robin said,
Maybe I’m missing something – but why doesn’t bio-dad just tell the 26-year-olds? What is he afraid of, emotionally? It sounds to me like bio-dad is protecting himself from possible rejection – now the twins are a bit older, that might not happen, and all he can do is try to tell his story to them, and trust.
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On 14 December 2008 at 8:44 pm Patricia said,
Hope for the best and work with a professional is my best word on the advice. Tangled webs are so difficult to unravel and timing needs to be so sensitive. Step by step, inch by inch…Hope for happy endings but prepare for other possibilities…
It will take years for trust to be gained only when the door is cracked open.
Adoption counselors deal with this stuff all the time..FYI
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On 14 December 2008 at 10:24 pm Mia said,
Jannie~
Wow. I’m sorry for commenting on this so late. It seems my computer and I have been apart for too long.
Hhmm. Well, I agree that everyone needs to know who they are. Everyone needs to know where they come from, what path brought them to where they are now – to who they are now. They may have a “dad” that they feel is theirs, but they also need to know that they are blessed to have 2 “dads”.
Another point….think about genetics. Think about all the paperwork you have to fill out on familial history with any kind of medical procedure. It’s important to know true history, not what you believe to be true…but what’s really true.
The girls should know. Delicately. They should know.
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On 14 December 2008 at 10:37 pm Vered - MomGrind said,
“People need to know who they are.” I agree. It’s time to tell the truth.
On 15 December 2008 at 12:32 am Rhett said,
I think the twins can be told right away, and the li’l half-sister be told when she is somewhat older. Simple. What say? Also a reunion could happen in three years when she is 12. At 12 a gurl is a woman.
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On 15 December 2008 at 3:02 am Barbara Swafford - Blogging Without A Blog said,
Hi Jannie – My heart goes out to everyone involved. Although the situation is not what it could be, it is where it is because everyone involved thought they were doing the right thing at the time.
Ideally the twins should be told, IF they are ready to learn the truth. Little Sis needs more time in order to understand, and Bio Dad sounds ready to handle whatever happens.
I’ve heard of many cases where adoptees find their bio parents and the endings are happy, but it was usually when they felt they were ready for the truth.
On 15 December 2008 at 9:42 am Heather (How to be a Woman..?) said,
I haven’t read any of the comments yet because I want to give you my accurate initial thoughts.
I don’t think children should be kept from either parent unless that parent is a criminal or drug addict or alcoholic or abusive in some way.
I can understand fully why a Mom would want to keep her children to herself, though. I see broken families all the time, and my parents are divorced. I would NEVER EVER want to give my kids up for shared custody, especially if that custody included another woman’s influence, especially if I didn’t know that woman like the back of my hand. And even then, what if they grew to love her more than me? Such an awful situation and I thank the good lord up above every day that I am not in it. So I do understand.
But kids need to know both parents, again, if there is no abuse present. And as a Mom if somebody were to keep my child from me… well, that would be the most cruel thing anyone could ever do. And those childhood years can never be replaced.
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On 15 December 2008 at 10:12 am Dot said,
I don’t think it’s all that tangled. The complications came from the lie. The truth needs to come out, and everyone needs to begin dealing with it, as best they can.
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On 15 December 2008 at 11:33 am Garry said,
I do not think that this is a major issue at all. I would say that these things happen all of the time in the case of divorce situations where one of the parties is a criminal.
What harm in letting the kid know. What harm in letting the kid not know. The letters, jpegs etc. are forms of brutal harrassment, taunting, etc. in light of the obvious facts. In light of the criminal nature of these activities,(save the evidence) I am not sure, in the end, that it would be a good thing to let the little girl know actually since I could see that she might be in danger from this very weird Bermudan.
On 15 December 2008 at 3:06 pm Momisodes said,
Wow. This is tough. I’d have to agree with Mike’s statement. I think everyone needs to learn the truth, and that they do care. Sometimes that alone can make a world of difference in someone’s heart.
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On 15 December 2008 at 3:08 pm Cricket said,
OH me…what a mess that must be taken care of. I think the twins need to know. I am not sure about the 12 year old. I guess it would depend on her maturity and her own stability in her own life. If she loves herself and is surrounded by love I think she will be fine. The problem is most 12 year old girls are going through their own changes and this might be tough. I do feel the twins should know.
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On 15 December 2008 at 4:49 pm Jo said,
Okay, that is super-complicated, but I’d tell all.
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On 15 December 2008 at 8:38 pm Jannie said,
Stephanie: Thank you. “When the time is right,” seems an apt assessment.
Robbi: Me too, I’m all for this childlike state I’ve gotten myself back too, lovin’ it.
Budda: Amen to the truth. Thank you.
Robin: Your input is very astute as to the dad fearing rejection. I believe that has been part ot it indeed. Thank you.
Patricia: Yes, step-by-step, inch by inch. Thank you.
Mia: Delicately, yes. And the more blessings, the merrier, right? Thank you.
Vered: Thank you. Your words are much appreciated.
Rhett: Thank you. T’would be easier were they just around the corner, but possibly London, UK or Montreal. Maybe Bermuda.
Barbara: Very wise words, indeed. “When they are ready for the truth.” Thank you.
Heather: Nope, no abuse, no drugs, no neglect. Just ordinary people making choices that have perpetuated a secret. And for what it’s worth, I’m not sure kids could ever really grow to love another mother more. You sound like a prize of a mom. I’m so glad I “met” you.
Dot: More very wise words, thank you.
Garry: Interesting. I would never go as far as to say “criminal” on the mom’s part. Mixed up, yes. She did have bit a hard childhood but overcame it. And from all I’ve ever seen has been a great mom to the twins. Really. I’ve spent some time with her and them, well years ago. Now all that remains is to untangle the web, classic example of “oh, what a tangled web we weave…” Dang that Shakespeare guy was good.
Momisodes: Thanks. The bio-dad’s heart and mine are more than open. I think the mom’s will be too eventually, when she realizes she is set free.
Cricket: I apologize for thsi being so convoluted and I can understand how you’ve pikced up the little sister is 12, as I did mention the part about when the twins were 12. But she is actually 7. Seven going on 24. Oh yeah, lots of love around that little one. She’ll be more than fine.
Jo: Thanks. I know it is complicated, but it’s hard to tell it any other way.
On 16 December 2008 at 3:34 pm Jeanne said,
Jannie,
The truth shall set you free. Secrets are unhealthy.
I think the only question is timing for the 7 year old and how to find the proper professional help to assist in protecting her from psychological harm.
Between the geographical distance issues, the bio mother’s apparent resistance to reveal the truth/tell the twins the truth/”allow” the twins to develop a relationship with their bio dad, etc… it could be a challenge to explain the whole situation to a 7 year old.
That does not mean that secrets are healthy. They are not.
Professional help is important and I would definitely suggest consulting some sort of Marriage and Family Counselor.
In the end, though, you and the bio dad need to go with your gut regarding the timing of telling the 7 year old. There is no doubt that she needs to know and has a right to know. The question is when and how.
Mia wisely pointed out something that occurred to me before I read her comment. It is important for siblings (half-siblings or not) to know about each other in case a medical situation were to arise where the genetic link could really matter. I don’t just mean for something like a transplant where mathching is involved. Even “simple” things like shared illnesses or allergies could be helpful to both the twins and the 7 year old.
It sounds like you really don’t know WHAT the twins know since you aren’t sure it was them writing the request for no contact. The twins have a right to know. The only way to be sure they know is for the bio dad to tell them. They are adults. If they haven’t been told by age 26, it’s unlikely the bio mom has any intention of ever telling them!
If the twins elect not to develop a relationship, the bio dad can’t necessarily “force” the issue but he can take measures to keep track of where they are. Someday they could change their mind! If the bio dad loses track of where they might be, it will be really tough on everyone.
Even if he isn’t in direct contact with the twins (i.e. if they flat out ask to be left alone in no uncertain terms), he is their bio dad and he has a right to know where they are, that they are safe, and how to find them if needed. It obviously must be handled delicately.
Who knows what the bio mom told them?? If she lied about being single and on birth control when that was not true, the road may be difficult… but the truth must come out eventually.
You definitely want the 7 year old to hear it from her parents when the time is right. There is no question in my mind that the 3 girls/women/sisters must know about each other at some point in time. You can’t control how the twins will behave. They may well turn away and not want to develop a relationship after all this time. This may hurt the 7 year old (and others). This is where the counseling is key.
While the 7 year old has a right to know the truth, she also needs to understand that it is NOTHING she did to make the twins not want to meet her, talk with her, etc!
Children can misunderstand in such situations and internalize things that are not about them. Once the 7 year old is told the truth, she needs to know that what the twins and bio mom do/say or don’t do/say is not related to anything the 7 year old has done.
She needs to understand that this is a difficult problem even for “grown-ups” to handle and that you know she may have questions. Be available for questions. Be honest in your answers.
With her young age, you don’t need to volunteer too much info. She will ask questions based on what she is ready to hear. That doesn’t mean it won’t hurt if the twins/bio mom do not respond the way you all would like.
You cannot control them. You can control what info is presented to the 7 year old and how it is presented. You can make the 7 year old feel comfortable sharing her feelings about it. You can involve a counselor to work through it.
You can share your feelings with the 7 year old (i.e. you might say, “I wish that the twins could call or write but they are not comfortable doing that. This makes me sad but I can’t control their actions or make their decisions for them. I CAN control how I react to this situation. It’s OK to be sad or angry that you can’t see or talk with the twins”.
Obviously this wording may be a bit over her head but you get the idea. The 7 year old needs to feel like she has a right to express her feelings, a right to FEEL them, and a right to know the truth.
You can explain that life is not always fair. You can let her know that she can talk with you about ANYTHING.
You are very astute. You are handling this thoughtfully. You are not taking any of it lightly. The 7 year old will be OK. She may not like it. However, she should know the truth.
Secrets are unhealthy. My therapist and I have discussed the dangers of secrets festering. This was not about this sort of secret — but secrets, in general, are not the healthiest way to handle things.
Just because the bio mom decided to handle things as she did does not diminish the rights of the 7 year old and the twins.
It does not mean that the bio father should be cut out of the picture just because the bio mom chose to lie for so many years.
The trick with the twins and the bio father is that the twins have had years to form their own opinions, be “brainwashed” by their bio mom, or a combination of both.
Their perspective of reality may be quite distorted. Therefore the bio dad has to use caution not to “force” the relationship on the potentially unwilling twins because it will likely backfire.
At the same time, the twins might be thrilled to meet the bio dad. You just don’t know.
I would try to get some idea of where the twins are coming from before telling the 7 year old if you can. At least get the “lay of the land”. If they are bitter, angry and/or have no desire to have a relationship with their bio dad, then you will better know how to tell the 7 year old the truth is the least hurtful way. The truth must still come out, in my opinion. I think it’s just a matter of WHEN.
With professional help, the 7 year old’s parents will find the right time and place to let her know the truth.
Secrets contaminate relationships, breed problems, hurt people, and even make people ill!
The truth is key.
Everything will work out the way it is meant to. Believe that it will. It may not go exactly as you wish. It will unfold as it is meant to, though. Believe that. Your thoughtful manner and great planning will ease the 7 year old into a healthy acceptance in the long run. It may be tough at first but kids are resilient. She will be OK. The twins absolutely need to be told by the bio father because they might not even know! You won’t know the truth on that until the bio dad talks with the twins.
Jeanne
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On 16 December 2008 at 11:50 pm ella said,
Holy Moly!
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On 17 December 2008 at 1:19 pm Jannie said,
Jeanne: Thank you, thank you, thank you. More than you know.
Ella: Yeah! Truth is stranger than fiction, eh?